" Decide what you love and sacrifice to do it. Don’t expect to be as good as other people at everything. Find a way to satisfy some of your emotional needs through your alone time or your hobbies or your work. It’s hard to be a good friend or a good partner or a good parent if you don’t know how to address your own needs first and foremost. If you don’t know what you want or need or how to satisfy your emotions, then you have to figure that out. That needs to be a top priority. But above all, don’t model yourself on other people, based on some scoldy voice in your head. You might be obsessed with being amazingly well dressed precisely because, at some level, you know that’s not really you. What’s ironic is that sometimes we fixate on the things that we just don’t give a shit about when push comes to shove. It’s just another way of hating ourselves for who we actually are! I think letting go is a giant part of getting your shit together. Knowing who you are and what you care about, and being unafraid to show THAT person with THOSE priorities to the world, is everything. "
